– Psychotherapy for Adults
One of the reasons leading people into psychotherapy rooms is the discrepancy between wanting and doing; people dwell on daily bases with aspects they would like to change about themselves, but have difficulty with bringing that change about.
Psychotherapy can be described as a range of techniques and strategies used to tackle a specific or general problem; it is a process where client and therapist have explicit roles to play, both actively working towards the same goals.
Whereas family and friends can provide good advice, support, pleasant conversation, among other things, the therapeutic relationship is a professional relationship; it exists in a specific setting, and because of that it involves distinct unspoken rules of interdependence and honesty – one of the reasons being that the therapist does not belong to other spheres of the client’s life.
Going through a psychotherapeutic process should increase awareness and the capacity for self-observation, change cognition, behavior, open up the range of options, feelings and actions, increase well-being and quality of life, thus having an impact on family life, work and social relations and the self (of course), as well as providing clear understanding of one’s abilities and strengths. It involves exploring feelings, beliefs, thoughts and relevant events in a precise, honest, and structured way with a trained professional to help do it safely.
And it is a hard, rebuilding process.
There’s no sense in listing symptoms or disorders to see if you connect with any – seeing yourself in a diagnosis will not bring that change about, but the part of you already looking for improvement will.
– Psychotherapy and the Teenager
The relationship between a psychotherapist and a adolescent is quite unique. Unlike other adults, the psychotherapist has a privileged position that does not demand much of the teenager (in terms of the daily responsibilities and struggles in his/her life) but offers a different set of eyes, a moment for self-understanding and empathy, where the adolescent has room to let some light and understanding come into impulses, fears, doubts, confused thoughts and unclear or repressed emotions; with that, the risk for substance abuse or self-harm behaviors generally decreases, the teenager’s relationships with peers and adults become less conflictual and more sincere, the ability to focus on school work increases, self-image becomes more positive and self esteem improves.
How do you know if your child could specially benefit from Psychotherapy or Counselling? Well, sometimes school shows the first flag, due to behavior and compliance issues, attention or learning difficulties. Other times, the parents themselves believe that something is not right in terms of development and interpersonal relationships, or they notice too many fears, too much rage or anger, too much anxiety, too many nightmares, too many rigid behaviors, too many outbursts.
– 3rd Culture Kids
As we expats know, adjusting to a new country, environment, culture (or in many cases a mix of different cultures), establishing and developing new relationships, finding stability and feeling at home is somewhat complex. Some families move every 3 years, other after 15 years, which is likely to bring on different kinds of consequences and reactions, but no matter how frequent, transitions can be smoother with some support and guidance.
The impact transitions have on children and teenagers is an issue that definitely should be addressed. These transitions may be about the geographical change (different countries), moving from one school to another, academic changes (moving up to a different grade level), getting to know new colleagues and teachers, or other matters such as moving in to new house, moving away from other family members, establishing new routines, and basically combining the new and old (what they have ahead and what they left behind). With teenagers there may be some concerns with smoothing transitions as to prevent deviant behaviors concerning sex, abuse of drugs or alcohol.
It is possible to work on the sense of unfamiliarity and prevent culture shock and make the best out of living in an international environment.
MA Clinical Psychology